Managing your love life shouldn’t be the hardest thing in the world. In fact, once you’ve understood the following three principles, you will be able to have a satisfying and rewarding love life. 😊
· Never use angry words to threaten your partner.
There are only two types of couples in this world: couples that fight and couples that you don’t know well.
That means conflicts are unavoidable in any relationship. Truthfully, whether you have compatible flaws and conflict management strategies will determine the future of your relationship.
When a person is angry, they might say something along the lines of, “That’s enough. We probably need to break up.”
But in fact, this individual does not really mean that. They are actually saying, “I want more attention and love from you.” In other words, this person is indirectly asking for more affection rather than a breakup.
However, when their partner hears those angry words, the partner’s subconscious mind begins to think, “Oh, so we could potentially break up with each other.” Then the partner’s subconscious mind will start to get ready for a real breakup.
That is to say, each time when you say angry words to threaten your partner, you are doing yourself a disservice. So, please do not say angry words to threaten this relationship.
· Measure the amount of love according to how much someone invests in the relationship rather than what they say.
Words are cheap.
If someone says “I love you” for one thousand times a day without any real action which indicates they truly love you, it’s just meaningless.
Thus, the best way to evaluate how much someone loves you is to look at how much they invest in this relationship.
For instance, if your girlfriend does something very nice for you, you should reward her with something equally nice. In this way, you are encouraging her to do better things for you because she will learn this fact: her positive actions are rewarded well.
Then you will see that the amount of love in your relationship will keep growing as you know how to train your girlfriend effectively.
· Choose respect, because liking you is not enough.
Yes, she likes you. But it doesn’t necessarily mean she respects you.
There is a big difference between liking somebody and respecting somebody.
Roger Sterling (from Mad Men) is a good example – he always chooses respect every single time. That’s why he has a wildly enjoyable love life.
Don’t put up with disrespectful behavior, and then you can have a love life by design, not by default.
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